When I was a child I was labelled a ‘bad loser’ when it came to playing games. For me, it was all about winning. I would take games so seriously that my family would often just ‘let’ me win to keep the peace. Monopoly, especially, brought out my most competitive characteristics. I wanted all the properties and all the hotels and all the cash. Looking back on this, maybe there were more useful things to learn in playing games.
“It’s not the winning, it’s the taking part.” Have you ever heard that phrase? Do you live by it?
What would a game look like if the aim was not to win or be in competition, but to play with other people? What if the point of a game actually was the ‘taking part’?
So Tea and Tolerance have begun to explore this question. To create a game that is about taking part in conversation: discovering what we each think, feel and want. What kind of world would you like to live in? How can we disagree agreeably? The answer to both these questions takes time, thought and space. How can we create the space and focus for these questions. How can we have more useful conversations?
So we introduce ” Being Human: the Conversation Game.”
It contains 5 sets of cards: questions, quotes and instructions. These are placed on a tea towel ( the game board) and with ‘teapot’ playing pieces for each player. This is all contained within a tea caddy. There are guidelines and specially devised Play Nicely rules, which help you enjoy the game.